One thing that has surprised me about transitioning my wardrobe into pregnancy garb is how long I have been able to get away with wearing non-maternity clothes. Sure, I had to empty half my clothes out of my closet and put them away until long after my body is through producing a human, but I’ve been impressed that so many things still work with a 6-month belly. This top is something I bought specifically for pregnancy though. I love how tenty it is, with plenty of room to spare AND the fact that it’s not a maternity top, which makes me feel totally fine with idea of wearing it in future summers as well. Let’s face it – I would probably have gravitated to this top regardless because it’s the most comfortable, breezy summer piece I could possibly imagine. Pairing it with ripped white denim (questionably held together by a hair tie) and some edgy sandals is my favorite way to wear it so far, but the summer is still young.
Writing the title of this post gave me a serious wave of anxiety/excitement/disbelief that I’m actually 23 weeks pregnant. That’s almost 6 months. Way beyond halfway done. I honestly can’t believe it. I’ve meant to do more insightful pregnancy updates on here, but the past few months have flown by so fast I could barely even catch my breath and collect my thoughts about it. It’s been a whirlwind of doctors appointments (more in these few months than I’ve usually had in 10 years – thankfully), body/wardrobe acclimating, savoring these last months as a family of 2, and of course all of life’s other non-pregnancy related complexities. Overall a very fortunate and positive whirlwind, but a whirlwind nonetheless. Today I wanted to take that moment and share a bit about my experience thus far…
Being pregnant has been different than I thought. Easier in some ways, harder in other ways. It’s easier than I expected because:
1. I have never gotten sick since day 1. I recognize how incredibly lucky I am for this and I know I won’t be able to expect the same luxury if I ever get pregnant again. Some of my friends have been sick throughout their ENTIRE pregnancies and I simply cannot imagine how hard that must have been. The only symptoms I have felt are occasional fatigue, the feeling of a small human sitting on my bladder, the dreaded weight gain, and temperamental skin.
2. Life resumed as normal in a lot of ways after the first trimester. The beginning was somewhat stressful and scary (not knowing for sure that it’s not going to go away and not being able to be out in the world with the news while trying to get used to it all). But at the 12 week mark, we found out we are having a girl and finally got to tell all our friends and family. Then things calmed down and we went back to our normal lives, only now with the added anticipation, curiosity, and excitement of what’s to come.
3. An amazing husband. Ian has been simply the most ecstatic dad-to-be, always wanting to know everything that’s happening with me and our baby, reading up on things, researching baby products… He’s obsessed with it all and so supportive of me, and I’m so grateful for that. This has brought us closer in so many ways, and made me feel so excited to be parents together.
4. The fact that we got pregnant at all. So many couples don’t have it so easy, and we take moments all the time to appreciate that we were basically given a free pass. You never know what it’s going to be like until you’re doing it, and we had always worried about that.
It’s harder than I expected because:
1. Losing control of my body. Even though I haven’t been sick, I wasn’t anticipating how odd it would feel to have this “alien” take over me and rely on me for survival before it even feels real. In some ways, this is part of what makes it so special, but it’s also something I really struggle with. While the dad gets to enjoy these 40 weeks of doing whatever he wants to do – eating whatever, drinking whatever, having “last hurrahs,” getting in shape before fatherhood, etc… I’m already a mom. The minute I became pregnant was the minute I had to stop doing a lot of things I enjoy having as a part of my routine. While it might feel trivial and silly compared to the miracle that’s going on inside of me, it really is hard to give up that freedom and control, especially when I know even harder times are ahead. As I type this, I’m on a plane to Nashville for a bachelorette trip for one of my good friends. I would love nothing more than to enjoy my first time in this city through a carefree, summery, artisanal cocktail-fueled lens, I have one foot in this massive responsibility of growing a child, and the other wanting to really embrace this time as sort of the final chapter as someone who doesn’t have these kinds of responsibilities. For some, this part is a piece of cake. For me, not so much. Maybe there’s a deeper Peter Pan complex going on here, but whatever it is, it’s hard for me. It’s not so much the restrictions themselves, but the sobering reality of this stage in life. It’s not about me anymore.
2. The fear/anxiety for what’s to come. I’ve never really been the mommy type. It’s not something that comes naturally to me. The motherly side of me is completely unknown as of now and it’s going to be a brand new identity. This thought scares me to death. What if the maternal side never comes? What if it comes but I lose my old self in the process? What if the transition is just more than I can take?
Rachel Zoe for A Pea in the Pod caftan / Dolce Vita sandals / Karl Lagerfeld watch / H&M rings / Luv AJ ring
However hard or easy this all is though, it’s happening. It’s moving forward at a fast pace and my life is never going to be the same. So the only thing to do is embrace the change. I’m enjoying the process of learning new things, becoming a part of this new “club”, planning and daydreaming about how we’ll take on parenthood in our own way, and just generally getting excited to meet this girl.
Those of you who have done this before, I would love to hear your experiences and any advice you have! As always, thanks so much for reading, guys. I promise my updates won’t always be so deep and dramatic but I just felt compelled to share where I’m at with it all.
Going into my pregnancy, I wasn’t sure how hard it was going to be to transition my wardrobe. It seemed daunting, and I envisioned having to buy all new “strictly maternity” clothes just for this period of 9 months. While I have had to buy a few pieces like that (jeans galore – more on that later), I have found that a lot of non-maternity items I already had definitely work well in the first half of the pregnancy. Today I’m sharing three outfits I’ve been wearing at around 20 weeks. Hope you enjoy! And be sure to subscribe to me on YouTube. :)
It never ceases to amaze me how much an outfit can be transformed by the little details. Since every outfit I wear tends to be some variation of comfortable jeans and a t-shirt, the fact that it can be quickly turned into a dinner date appropriate look is good news for me. For all of us really. While this top is a little nicer than a t-shirt, it looks like one and it feels like one. By adding a statement necklace (or in this case a pile of em), fancy shoes (no heels necessary as long as they are fab), and a clutch, the whole thing elevates to a new level without compromising on comfort. Win win!
When I first found out I was pregnant, I was surprised at how long the time felt between when the baby was the size of a grain of rice and when I would start showing. It felt like an eternity. At 16 weeks I’m just now starting to see a bump that’s a little bigger than a Chipotle burrito belly (aka, the usual). But over the past few weeks, I was faced with the daily challenge of figuring out what to wear that was comfortable for my growing waistline. It’s hard to make updates to your wardrobe when it’s far from maternity clothes time, but you don’t want to buy too many normal clothes knowing that you won’t be able to wear them in a few months. Luckily I like the oversized look so most of what I already own will work well into my pregnancy. But the pants are the first things to stop fitting. So… overalls! I picked these up early on in my pregnancy and not only are they SO comfortable, but they are perfect for the growing bump. There’s some natural extra room in there, and you can just leave the side buttons unbuttoned as it grows. The look kind of reminds me of a kangaroo on a mama-to-be but I don’t mind it at all.
Last weekend I had a strong urge to bring some life into our apartment with flowers. I go in phases with remembering to do this, but when I do, I really feel like it totally upgrades the whole vibe in the house. I love anything white and plush, especially hydrangeas because they last a really long time and just a few go a really long way. There’s nothing more springy than an outing to the flower shop, and this outfit felt right in line with that. This jacket has saved me from some rainy days yet works in the sunshine just as well. I bought these Acne boots a little late in the season but they had been haunting me forever and they’ve been my go to ever since. As for the top, you guys know how much I have loved Gold Hawk’s feminine yet edgy luxe pieces (like this dress, these pants, this faux jumpsuit, and this top to name a few). Well, the same designer started a new line called Falcon & Bloom, offering more romantic silk staples that are already starting to dominate my closet. Their website is still in the works for e-commerce but in the meantime you can find it on Shopbop (hello this) and Planet Blue (their silk shorts are absolutely necessary for everyone). SO to celebrate Falcon & Bloom, I’m hosting a little giveaway of a couple of their signature pieces. Details below…
DETAILS: If you’re new to Gold Hawk or Falcon & Bloom, the first thing I would tell you to buy is a cami and shorts set. They come in every silk/lace color combo and you can wear them together as lingerie, or separate them and wear them out. The camis are perfect to layer under sheer tops or on their own with a blazer and jeans. The shorts are comfy with a t-shirt for lounging around at home OR with heels and blazer for date night. I love the versatility these pieces offer. That’s why I’m partnering with Falcon & Bloomg to give a set away to one lucky winner! It can either be this set shown here OR you can have your pick of another color. Winner’s choice! All you have to do is leave a comment on this post and tell me how you’d wear them and follow @falconandbloom on Instagram! You don’t want to miss out on this one. The winner will be chosen at random on 5/4/15. Open to US residents only. Good luck!
This top was an odd purchase. It kept catching my eye when I was shopping at Nordstrom and even though it’s sort of an unflattering balloon-like cut, I couldn’t escape it. I just love the colors and how it basically carries an outfit all on its own without needing any other frills or layers. Every girl needs a few pieces like that in their closet. The kind you can throw on with the most staples and still be able to make a statement. It’s the easiest way to fool everyone into thinking you actually put thought into it.
I hesitate to call attention to the fact that I’ve been a little absent from the blog these days by making it a topic of conversation right now because chances are you haven’t even noticed and I could have gotten away with it. But I’m a person who likes to put things out on the table in case we’re both thinking it. While I love sharing all my inspiration and style obsessions with you guys in a regular editorial schedule, the truth is that blogging with that kind of consistency (and with quality content) is a full time job. The blogging world is pretty competitive. If you don’t post at least five times a week, readers tend to leave you for the blogs that are run by people who have made it their full time job. Don’t get me wrong, some girls have managed to juggle another job and post everyday, and maybe I need to take those girls to lunch to learn their secrets. But for me, when the other half of my job gets busy, those projects take over my life and the blog gets a little quiet. I hate that I can’t do them both in full force all the time, but for me it’s just too hard. I hope you guys will still stay with me even when posts are a little less frequent from time to time. Please know that this blog is very much a love of mine and I always come back to it whole heartedly when styling slows down. Right now I think I’ve reached a point where that’s the case, and I can reemerge on here. This is part of why I love my new website so much, because it shows the entirety of my business, so you guys can see what else I might be up to if there’s fewer posts to check in on. Also, no matter what I’m doing, I’m always posting on Instagram and Snapchat both at @thelifestyled so you can check in on me there! Phew, I’m glad to get that off my chest. On to the outfit… As you know I’m not much of a color girl, but blues tend to be my jam especially when the temps warm up and black seems a little heavy. I love this top for it’s quirky pattern and neoprene fabric of the outer layer. It’s obviously not a weekly rotation kind of top but I’m trying to gravitate more towards special pieces when I shop to avoid too much wardrobe basic-ness. I’ll keep you posted on how it goes.
It’s a real shocker, I know. I’m actually wearing an outfit that is completely clear of black. It’s weird to see, and it was weird to feel as it was happening. This jacket has taken some adjusting in my closet but something about it really caught my eye. I stalked it for a few days in the store wondering “am I crazy for wanting this?” before I finally decided to dive in. It’s those times when the usual edgy black ensembles don’t cut it – a spring luncheon, a baby shower – when I really notice the need for a few contrasting pieces in the wardrobe. This one may be an odd choice but I had to go with it. I had to see where the birds would take me. I like how it speaks for itself, and doesn’t need more than the most basic base outfit of jeans and a white tee to look pulled together.
Two things have been on my list for awhile to add to my wardrobe: a good vintage rocker tee, and a faux fur jacket. They needed to be worn together with ripped jeans, black buckle boots, and a good pair of sunnies to complete the modern version of this Almost Famous/Penny Lane look. There’s something about all these elements that are just destined to be together. I love how comfortable and approachable the base of the outfit is with rips and vintage fade, yet the fur adds a contrasting opulence that I appreciate. The stripes on this one make it a bit more interesting and help break up the volume of the piece, to avoid making me look like a full-on snowman. Now if only I could be as effortlessly cool as Kate Hudson, then the look would really come together.